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Hidup penuh dengan gangguan?!

jadi apa masalahnya? hidup atau gangguan? bayangkan pemain badminton yg bermain dalam gema sorakan berbanding seorang pemain tenis yang meminta para penonton diam dalam lapangan yang terbuka.. bayangkan kita sedang solat berjemaah dan seseorang di sebelah kita membaca ayat2 dengan agak kuat.. bayangkan ada cahaya atau bunyi bising ketika kita mahu melelapkan mata.. dimana fokus kita? adakah kita fokus dengan hidup atau kita fokus dengan gangguan?

ada pendapat mengatakan kita akan menyerah dengan tiga cabaran berkenaan dengan fokus..
tidak fokus kerana tidak mahu atau tidak mampu
fokus kepada hal yang membuat mereka tidak efektif
fokus tapi tetap tidak peka terhadap keadaan sekeliling
eksperimentasi mudah.. ketika sarapan pagi.. tanyakan orang yg berada di sebelah anda tiga perkara yang mahu dicapainya pada hari itu.. tanyakan pada diri anda.. kebanyakan dari kita hanya akan bekerja dan menangani sesuatu yang berlaku.. sayangnya kita tidak fokus.. sama ada kita tidak mahu atau tidak tahu..

satu mitos mengenai fokus ialah fokus memerlukan tenaga dan membuat kita tertekan, manakala tidak fokus bermakna tenang dan santai.. benarkah? kenyataannya memang begitu yang berlaku pada kebanyakan orang, kerana mereka merasa dunia ini tidak cukup untuk semua orang.. itu akan kita bahas dalam tajuk lain.. hanya saja jika kita melakukan sesuatu yang kita sukai kita seakan lupa waktu kerana terlalu menikmatinya.. kita fokus dan santai..

berbalik pada ‘hidup’ dan ‘gangguan’.. kita menjadi tertekan tidak efektif ketika kita fokus pada masalah.. jika fokus kita tentang hidup, maka apakah tujuan kita hidup? apa fungsi kita dalam kehidupan nih? dan proses selanjutnya ialah tidak membiarkan ‘gangguan’ mengalihkan fokus terhadap tujuan..

mengapa kita tidak dapat menikmati hidup? bagaimana kalau aku kata kerna kita terlalu fokus dengan diri kita? bukankah seharusnya kita fokus pada apa yang boleh kita lakukan dan pada apa yang boleh kita sumbangkan pada kehidupan? dimana fokus kita? adakah kita fokus pada apa yang kita lakukan atau kita fokus pada apa yang akan kita dapati?

kita ambil contoh ibadah kepada Tuhan.. yang paling mudah, solat.. mana fokus kita? adakah kita solat kerna mahu doa kita dimakbulkan? adakah kita solat kerna kita mahu masuk syurga? atau adakah kita solat kerna kita mahu menghambakan diri kepada Tuhan? adakah kita akan semakin khusyu’ ketika doa2 kita tidak dimakbulkan? kita zikir kepada Tuhan supaya kita mendapat rahmat atau kita berzikir semata2 untuk merasa rahmat-Nya?
beberapa minggu yang lalu, seorang sahabat berkisah tentang zikir.. mengosongkan fikiran atau mengisi fikiran? menumpukan perhatian atau menghilangkan tumpuan? sangat menarik apabila dia mengatakan bahawa satu cara untuk kita terus fokus pada perkara yang penting dalam hidup adalah dengan mengingati kematian..

menghadapi kematian diri kita sendiri akan membuat kita lebih menghargai dan menikmati hidup.. bayangkan jika kita mengetahui bahawa hari ini adalah hari terakhir anda hidup, kita tidak akan fokus menghadapi kematian, sebaliknya kita akan fokus terhadap apa yang perlu kita lakukan ketika hidup.. merasa tidak punya waktu untuk tamak, dengki, iri hati, marah, dsb. dan tidak bertangguh untuk melakukan perkara2 penting dalam hidup anda.. maka bayangkan setiap hari yang anda lalui itu sebagai hari terakhir anda hidup..

kata sahabatku lagi, “untuk terus fokus, kau kena belajar memaafkan dan melupakan.”

ketika merasa gagal, maafkan diri kita dan lupakan.. yang menarik dari penjelasannya ialah ketika kita sudah mencapai kejayaan, kita juga harus ‘melupakan’ kejayaan kita.. ada dua quote dia yang aku sangat ingat malam itu..

“dalam setiap kata ‘PUJIAN’ itu ada kata ‘UJIAN’..”

“DERITA adalah kesan tidak perlu dari pengalaman yang menyakitkan kerna tetap fokus pada LUKA..”

soalan terakhir.. benarkah fokus pada sesuatu membuatkan kita tidak peka pada sesuatu yang lain?

fokus juga bermakna ‘berada di sini pada saat ini’.. bermakna tubuh, perasaan, jiwa dan fikiran kita berada di suatu tempat yang sama pada saat yang sama.. bila kita melakukan multi-tasking, kita melakukan apa yang dinamakan ‘kesatuan fokus’.. bukan fikiran melayang2 antara dua keadaan tetapi kebolehan untuk mengubah fokus dengan cepat..

latihan fokus adalah suatu yang sangat mudah.. mulakan dengan perkara2 kecil.. contohnya apabila orang berkata sesuatu pada anda, fokus pada apa yang mahu dikatakannya.. ramai dari kita fokus kepada apa yang mahu kita katakan kepada orang dan bukan apa yang mahu disampaikan oleh orang.. do check again.. ketika kita melakukan sesuatu, dimanakah fokus kita? dan adakah itu membuat hidup kita lebih tenang?

ihsan:http://boonchert.blogspot.com/2010/06/can-you-focus.html

Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’97
Wear Sunscreen

If I could offer you only one tip for the future,
sunscreen would be it.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists,
whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience
I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh nevermind,
you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they’ve faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself
and recall in a way you can’t grasp now, how much possibility lay before you
and how fabulous you really looked,
you are not as fat as you imagine.

Don’t worry about the future, or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you

Sing

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts,
don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss

Don’t waste your time on jealousy, sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind,
the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself.

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults,
if you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life,
the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22
what they wanted to do with their lives,
some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t,
Maybe you’ll divorce at 40,
Maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary
What ever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s.
Enjoy your body, use it every way you can, don’t be afraid of it,
or what other people think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own

Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Brother and sister together we’ll make it through
Someday a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you’ve been hurtin, but I’ve been waitin’ to be there for you
And I’ll be there just helping you out whenever I can

Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for good.

Be nice to your siblings, they are the best link to your past
and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on.
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle because the older you get,
the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard,
Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will philander,
you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize that when you were young
prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund,
Maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you’re 40, it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia,
dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off,
painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen

Brother and sister together we’ll make it through
Someday a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you’ve been hurtin, but I’ve been waitin’ to be there for you
And I’ll be there just helping you out whenever I can
Everybody’s free oh yeah
Everybody’s free oh yeah

Kesihatan diri terpaksa menjadi keutamaan walaupun ingatan saya terhadap awak semua sangat menebal. Semoga awak semua menggunakan masa semasa ketiadaan saya untuk membuat ulangkaji.

SCAMS

This information is meant for you to know and warn your family members and loved ones before they become victims. People got victimised by scams because they don’t know about it and they don’t know about it because those who knew about it did not share it. Here are some hot scams in Malaysia in brief :

The Cafe Scams
Island Red Cafe & Stevens Corner (strange, both in Pandan Indah) – Island Red Cafe collects members RM6,000 each and promised 5% return every month and even give you a name in the ROC as a shareholder but what’s the point when they run away? Stevens Corner, the famous Indian coffee shop follows due to drop of business since their renovation. They collect RM3,000 per member and promise return of RM150 monthly and plans to open nice fanchisee cafe called Stevens Tea Garden. Someone mentioned they will make you sign an agreement that give them the rights NOT to pay you anything in future. If you really wish to join, ask for a copy of their agreement and consult your lawyer BEFORE paying them. Bet you will NOT get a copy. Both collect monies from new members with MLM recruitment schemes and pay the old members like Sunshine Empire. You never know when they will run away.

Sunshine Empire
This licensed and legal Company has an impressive office at the ground level of KUB building along Jalan Yap Kwan Seng, near Menara Public Bank and AmBank Building. They also have a showroom office at the ground level in the next building. 2 or 3 months ago, Singapore’s Straits Times and The Paper published big news reminding their people to be careful and NOT to believe in them. Hope someone can put up the link or google for it. As expected, they STOPPED paying back members now and all investors LOST their money.

Someone below has put a link to the Singapore news. In fact there are more to it. Although Singapore is investigating them, they did not stop their business as the business is legal and so far, no Singaporean has failed to receive their commissions as promised. Thus, the government cannot stop them yet.

The news published that the founder, director and group president is someone named James Phang but he is NOT the owner. Isn’t this quite strange? At the end of the game, James Phang can just disappear from the Company easily and claimed that he was just “employed”. Such trick always happens in scam businesses.

Now, the Company has STOPPED paying commissions and interests to members with the excuse that the Singapore government has freezed their bank account while under investigation. Do you think their boss will be so stupid to keep much monies in the bank to be freezed? They are all transfered away. It’s just an excuse not to pay back to members and members are only paid “e-bonus-points” which is cashless. If they wish to convert to cash, they have to recruit new members to pay them cash and the recruiter less out from the amount. So victims act like Vampires and “forced” to victimise other victims if they wish to get their monies back. And their victims will later transform to vampires and the scam carries on…..

MOBILWALLET
This Company owned by 2 young men, Stanley & Rey Gan, office in Queens Avenue Park has collect multi-millions the last 2 years. Claimed that they tied up with Telekoms, Utility Board payment like Water & Electricity bills, even Maybank got fooled by them. Advertisement Billboards everywhere. They STOPPED paying back their members few months ago and the members cannot do anything because they are made to sign an agreement unaware that they have to claims if the company stopped paying them by CHANGING terms and policies.

Water businesses
Oxygenated and alkaline water products – Some of these are bottled water and some are filters or equipment that claimed the trick. One of the better known Company that sold “oxygen” water is SITO (supposed to stand for Selangor International Trading Organiszation and claimed Selangor State Government owned some share in it). The key person and founder is a Dato Robert Ong from Rawang but his name is no longer in the business now. Their products are sold for RM2 to RM3 for a 350ml bottle and now concentrating mostly in the Indian market. Their Chinese and Malays market are long gone since a year or 2 ago. Their customers are made to believe that their water has more oxygen and able to give miraculous effects for the body. Water is H2O, how to put more O into it? Anyone knows how much oxygen do we breathe into our body everyday at FOC? Latest news is that this SITO Company is going to create new label to market under a new Company since the SITO name has already gone bad. Someone informed that this Company is owing alot of money (due to refunds) to ex-stockists but just refuse to pay them.

(Latest news, SITO shifted to another place and their MLM business has closed but planning to start again with a different name, beware!!)

Alkaline Products – Can anyone explain how it can work for the body? The stomach’s gastric liquid is so acidic that water of any pH that goes through it will not make any difference.

Car Fuel Booster – K-Link
The famous scam MLM Company that sold the footpatch TAKARA, later the “cock-ring” and energy-card launched the patrol-saving pills last year. Got so hot that even grocery shops are selling for them. Recently many of these cars that used the pills are rushing to the workshops to clean the residual. Few months ago, another MLM Company launched a fuel booster gadget, claimed that saves up to 20% fuel that is attached to the cigarette lighter. Started off well using binary plan but businese begin to fade now and most users find it NOT effective.

Perfumery Products (eg Lampe Berger & Bel Air)
Lampe Berger is not so hot now in the neighbouring countries but there are still new victims every month in Malaysia. Must thanks to those who have contributed and kept the thread alive here in Kopitiam. Bel-Air have closed in Malaysia. LB is almost zero in Singapore. This perfumery product from France with over 100 years history is just bottles and fragrance (check the factory’s website) but the Company marketing them in Asia claimed “aromatheraphy” products. Hong Kong TVB aired a program that exposed their scam but their members claimed that HK’s TVB already apologised to them. Note that the biggest strength in a MLM Scam is their members will go all way out to lie in order to defend for their Company. The reason is simple; these members fear that they will not be able to make their money back if the Company collapsed. Knowing that the Lampe Berger products are moving slow, they add a line of skincare products named Estebel, also claim to have over 100 years history in France. (Hardly anymore Chinese newcomers, they are now tapping the Malays in Malaysia).

Energy Products (eg. stone pendants, bracelets, mattress and pillows)
They use all sorts of gimmicks and demonstration to make you into believing them. They will do some tricks and demo to prove that these products really produce energy BUT is there any tricks in their demo? So what if there really produce energy; is it good or strong enough to help the body? The effect is actually PLACEBO which I will elaborate in a new thread soon.

Hi-Tech products
Names like bio-tech, nano-tech that claimed millions of dollars of research involved, eg Bio-Young and XKL few years ago. Most of these will claimed a professor behind them (even with name and picture of a person) or used words like “U.S.A. formula”, “German Technology” or “Nanotechnology” and no further details. If you ask for more details like the professor or factory’s address, the answer will be “trade secrets”.

Investment Schemes
SWISSCASH is the King of all. Swisscash is nearly over now but there are many similar and smaller ones that are still on. Now, it’s closed or stopped paying back members.

GoldQuest
This Company that claimed to be HK-based started with some non-value gold-plated coins that are sold for over RM2,000 have several names and changed products several times – QuestVacation, QuestNet, etc. They have several offices in Amcorp Mall, PJ and their key person (in fact, the owner), a Malaysian Indian was arrested last year in Indonesia for having involved in a very big Phillipines scam. Most of their overseas offices are closed or inactive but their Malaysia business is still hot, with some “energy” products. Can someone please provide a link which showed the news that their boss was involved in a big scam in Philippines and was arrested in last year?

Visible – Numerology & Fortune telling
A Company named Visible is using MLM to sell fortune telling classes using your birthday based on Numerology fortune telling. Prospects will be told that they need to buy a certain “number” between 1 to 9 in the form of pendants or bracelets made of stainless steel and sold from RM600 to RM20,000. Customers or rather victims are mostly females from rural areas. Very hot in Penang now and a number of spin-off Companies have started.

MJ-Life
This Company boasts of a very big background with many many years of history which is NOT true. Their people or associates may be long in business but nothing to do with their MLM launched recently. Why do I consider it a scam or bad? New members are told to pay a sum of money (up to RM1000) and you get NOTHING for it. You only get a membership can entitle you to enjoy all sorts of special price and discounts when you have medical check-ups in their centres. They will claim all those check-ups cost more if done elsewhere. It’s not true. Only the naive and those new to medical check-ups will fall victims to them. Most members who paid the money ended up with nothing.

Seaweed Venture Scam
One such Company is located in Taman Maluri, Cheras. They will ask you to invest a few thousands ringgits for their venture of growing seaweeds in East Malaysia and you are guaranteed returns. To gain your confidence further, they will tell you your investment money is secured by “insurance” or “unit trusts” & “trustees”. When you ask for further documents to prove, they will give all sorts of excuses or just ignore you because they know they cannot get you. These Seaweed scam is one of the hottest now, warn all your friends about it before they are victimised.

MXM (previously MGM)
This is a master scam among the younger group, very successful 2 or 3 years ago but since there moved to their big 10-storey office at Phileo Damansara and changed name to MXM, their business dropped. They collect members RM3,000 to RM4,000 with credit card monthly easy payment and in return you get a hospital benefits insurance from Pacific Insurance worth only a few hundred RMs together with some you-don’t-need medical check-ups from their associate Company Pathlab. Also talk about fitness, lifestyles bullshit that is all worthless.

Gano Excel
This company from the north, a copycat of DXN selling Lingzhi capsules created a new Company called Gano iTouch to cash-in on the internet like e-Cosway after their Company went down the drain since the last 2 years, selling Linzhi and some no-value energy pendants and alkaline water gadgets. They provide free transport every weekend from KL to visit their Alor Star office.

NuLife(HK) – This Company started by some HK people has been in Malaysia for more than 10 years but they have flopped in HK and Malaysia due to bad management and a product scam making use of a prosecuted American named Dr Jeffrey Bland, found guilty of false products claim. Since this case in the US leaked out and many Malaysians found out that the real boss in HK is a Steven Tang (he cheated many Malaysians in another scheme about 20 years ago) their business went down all the way. Now they claim Malaysian partners cheated them and start a new Company in Malaysia. Watch out, this new Company will come out with some investment scheme idea that will get many to lose their money.

Arowana Fish Breeding
Oora from Germany, Biofuel (Kompleks Maluri) etc – These are some newer scams. Arowana fish venture ask you to invest some money and give you fixed return. Biofuel will tell you their Indonesia connections (just like Sunshine Empire before using Taiwan) & Oora from Germany (I never trust those cruel Germans) that market some bio-chips and a gadget that claims to give energy and therapeutic effects of accupunture, tai-chi, yoga, etc depending how you set the toy-like gadget, wear it on your body and you get the effect later. They could not explain or provide any demonstration to prove their effectiveness. Only doctors and papers claim that I will never trust. The health effect is actually PLACEBO.

Referrence:http://wtfmalaysiangovernment.blogspot.com/2010/05/top-17-scams-in-malaysia.html